When the Army Girl sees her counselor regarding not being able to forgive herself, the counselor suggests to write a letter to the victim. In some cases that may help but not here and not for her. The Army Girl needs to write the letter to her mother. Our society is afraid and reluctant to place blame on parents, as if by becoming one they suddenly become perfect people. Her mother was most likely raised in the same way she raised her daugther. It was all she knew and continued the trauma because the mother herself never got help to stop the pattern. The Army Girl needs to be able to place blame on the mother who failed to protect and raise her in a safe, normal, nurturing environment while understanding the mother also missed out on love and security when growing up. The counselor simply repeated what every other counselor thinks and says without giving sincere thought to what would truly help her. The psych field needs invite fresh ideas in and apply them to women. The Army Girl will continue to feel the paranoia of being raised with violent men ( her mother's boyfriends), frequent moves (her mother made) and the lack of love in her life until she understands her upbringing did not give the tools for normalcy. Her mother was not capable. The Army Girl will be able to forgive herself when she understands it was not her job to raise herself, her mother didn't know any better, and that she is still here for a reason. I wish I could talk to Jodi myself as the counselor on the show missed the chance to offer the insight that would set her free even though she is still in jail. Mary RN, BA; mcderm767@aol.com